Before having children, I made a wish that my kids would not be ‘boring.’ That they would have interests and passions and express their needs so that I could support them in every way I knew how. I hoped for kids who embodied words like ‘spunky’, ‘lively’ and ‘creative’.
I got what I asked for and then some.
Somehow I never really considered the flip side of that equation, though, and as much as I wouldn’t change a thing, I didn’t realize how taxing it is to raise kids who are spirited and full of the dickens (as my mom would say).
My parenting journey started out rough. I struggled with my colicky baby who refused to be set down for even a second, slept very little, and demanded a LOT. It wasn’t long before I was feeling the result of too little sleep, very little self-care and a complete loss of my sense of ‘self’. I was giving literally every ounce of energy and attention to my little person, and as much as I loved the role of mama and loved that little lady, it made me feel sucked dry. I had lost all connection to myself- my interests, my passions, and my intuition.
There were times when I felt like I was boxed in by my commitments and responsibilities, unable to see my way out. I kept meeting them, but my patience and joy were dwindling and with it went the amazing parent I had always hoped to be. I snapped too easily, got frustrated when I couldn’t manage behaviors effectively and when I did manage to hold it together all day, I snapped at my hubs the minute he walked in the door. I’m sure it was fun for everybody.
I don’t mean to criticize, because it really was the best I could do at the time with the information that I had, but it has become so abundantly clear to me since then that mamas NEED to retain that connection to our intuition.
We need to feel grounded, spiritually connected, and a strong sense of purpose outside of parenting. We need time for self-care to do things like socialize, take a shower in peace and get a haircut. And we need to love ourselves and our lives as something more than a just a sacrifice to our children.
We all have purposes, missions to accomplish- our children and ourselves. We have grand dreams of how we want to change the world and make it a more peaceful, joyful, (adventurous) and loving place. It IS our job to encourage and support our children in striving for the dreams they have, but it is also our job to be that example for them every step of the way. To inspire them to move forward with faith and determination, and to know that it is not their job to sacrifice their desires for others’ happiness (there is enough for everybody).
I truly believe that we can all create amazing lives:
-where we matter- not only to our families, but where we can use our gifts to make a difference in the world
-where we have the clarity and simplicity to focus on what REALLY matters to us
-where we are loving, compassionate and purpose-driven women AND amazing mamas. (We don’t have to choose.)
-where we have the freedom and adventure to remember that life is really frickin’ fun!
You with me?
What is it that YOU want more of in your life?
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I’m so excited to connect with you and hear about the life YOU crave!