I vowed last fall that I would make and donate 100 hats to a local charity and promptly signed up for a craft fair, then Thanksgiving and Christmas, not to mention working on loads of new projects for this business… needless to say they didn’t get finished. However, as a follow up to my ‘Clear the Clutter’ challenge, I am back at it! I actually already had a bunch of hats cut out and partially sewn, so I am working to get them finished ASAP (hopefully while it’s still super cold so they can get some use)! It feels good to follow through.
That is not what I wanted to talk about today, though. I had a great day at work tonight (did I mention that I work super part time at Trader Joe’s? I have ever since my oldest daughter was a baby and despite starting up this coaching gig I still haven’t let it go yet…) Anyway, the customers are amazing.
Tonight I had a guy come through my line who brought up some great lessons for me that I want to share with you. It was a relatively short conversation- after all I was in the wine shop so the transaction wasn’t very long, but the very first thing he said to me besides ‘hello’ was ‘you have a great face!’
I told him ‘I’ll take it! Thank you!’ (I’ve been consciously working on not negating compliments that people give me and this was the perfect opportunity to do so.) He then went on to talk about my chin and cheek bones and how God must have designed it that way because he didn’t want me to have any facial surgery and that people pay for cheeks and a chin like that.
The whole thing made me laugh. He seemed so over the top with how fully he expressed his thoughts, but at the same time it brought up two big things for me
1) I’ve always felt like I had a big chin. On the whole, I do. Not Jay Leno big, but bigger than most. I’ve had people tell me I have a ‘moon face’ (not sure exactly what that means?) And while I wouldn’t say that I’ve necessarily been super self-conscious about it, because to be honest I’m not super concerned with the way I look in terms of conventional norms, I certainly haven’t necessarily embraced it. It struck me that of the two things he focused in on, one of them was an area that if I was asked to identify the top three areas of my face that I perceived to be ‘flaws’, my chin definitely would have been one of them.
Ok, ok, so enough about chins because this isn’t exactly the point of what I want to say either. However, what I DO want to say is that sometimes the things that feel like our biggest downfalls are actually our best attributes from others’ perspectives. I, for one, am going to spend more time appreciating that.
Second, I loved how openly honest he was to shine the light on others. He had no problem just jumping right into telling me like it is (or at least like it is in his experience) and he did it in a positive way.
This got me thinking about how I am supporting others’ views of themselves and their lives on a daily basis. When I notice great things about others, am I sharing it with them with ease? Am I shining the light on the potential I see in those around me?
Because we all need that encouragement- to see ourselves as more beautiful, clever, thoughtful, wise or funny than we see ourselves. We can all use a little awakening (or sometimes a big awakening) to the magnitude of possibility and potential that lies within us. And through this, sometimes it becomes apparent that like me, the things we are the most unsure of or self-conscious about may actually be our greatest strengths.
What do you think? Are there any aspects of your perception of yourself that is out of alignment with how others see you? And are you shining the light on other peoples’ strengths so that they can see and express them better? I’d love to hear your thoughts!
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